Nikki and Bill Waddington are preparing to get
married on 8 July.
And they’ve waited so long after being separated on and off by geography and circumstance, they’re determined that it will be not just a day, but a whole weekend to remember.
Zermatt in Switzerland has become ‘their place’. It’s somewhere they’ve been back to year after year, sometimes reuniting them after long periods apart. And most importantly of all, it’s where Bill ultimately popped the question in April 2016.
They love it so much that – without giving too much away before the day itself – they’re hoping to share just a little bit of Swiss mountain magic with their wedding party guests.
“Zermatt is our absolute favourite place in the world for all sorts of reasons and we wanted it to be part of our wedding, but it would have been just too much hassle to take our guests out there. So we’re going for the next best thing, which is bringing a flavour of the ski slopes to them,” said Nikki.
“We can’t give too much away in advance as it will spoil the surprise, but we intend our wedding party to be a lot of fun, with a few unexpected elements into the bargain!”
Don’t worry if you’re reading this blog and itching to know – all will be revealed in ‘Part 2’ after the wedding!
Bill and Nikki are getting married at Hessle’s All Saints Church, followed by a whole-weekend celebration. As well as putting up a marquee in the garden of their home, also in Hessle, we are planning the entire event for the lovely Bill, who is a criminal lawyer and Director of Williamson’s law firm in Hull, and Nikki who is a former cruise ship dancer and now teaches Zumba and ‘clubbercise’ fitness classes.
“We’re going for a classic style of wedding and wedding breakfast, with ivory and rose gold, and rose gold sequins for that little bit of sparkle,” continued Nikki.
“But then there will be quite a twist in the evening.”
Nikki said that she and Bill have chosen Swiss-inspired food, including fondue and a cheese table. The enjoyment will continue into Sunday, with a day-long newly-weds’ party.
And when you learn more about Bill and Nikki’s romantic story, it becomes clear why their big day is such a cause for celebration.
“We’ve been together on and off for 25 years,” added Nikki. “But I was a professional dancer until I turned 30, and was away abroad for long stretches at a time.
“We’ve had our ups and downs as you’d expect during that time, and have spent stretches of time apart. The friends who’ve shared our journey with us have been waiting a long time to see us get hitched and I think they’re just as excited about it as we are!”
She explained how their long-held love of their personal haven in the Swiss Alps came about.
“We discovered Zermatt 15 years ago and we’ve been back almost every year since. So much so that it’s become a bit of an anchor for our relationship. It’s a really gorgeous setting with its backdrop of mountains , including of course the iconic Matterhorn,and has become very much our special place, that held us together.”
Nikki performed on a number of cruise ships, touring the globe including the Algarve, Japan and Brazil.
Despite the ambitious nature of what she and Bill are hoping to achieve with their big day, she is surprisingly calm about the preparations, and has a great, chilled philosophy about it.
“I don’t want to tempt fate or anything but it’s been a doddle so far to be honest, and I haven’t felt stressed about it at all,” she said.
“I think the secret of that for me was booking everything early. Pretty much as soon as we got engaged, I booked the big things including the marquee, our band and DJ, our flowers and the catering.
“That means that now, as we get closer to the day, it’s just the smaller things like the invitations and RSVPs, and table plans, we need to finalise.”
Nikki will have three bridesmaids, including two of Bill’s nieces and Nikki’s best friend and former housemate. Bill’s nieces’ husbands and Nikki’s brother will be their ushers, making it a lovely, close-knit family affair.
Here are Nikki’s top six tips for making sure your wedding planning is as stress-free as possible.
Here at Village Farm we don’t just build marquees, we can take care of your entire event planning to help you remain as calm as Nikki about the whole thing. Recommending suppliers we know will deliver great things, making sure everything happens when it is supposed to and troubleshooting any niggles are all part of the service.
For a free, no obligation initial chat about your wedding vision, call us on (01262) 468160 or email email@example.com.
We look forward, each year, to this lovely event which gives us chance to showcase our marquees and – more importantly – chat to the lovely brides and grooms of the future.
We had a fantastic time at this year’s fayre, earlier this month, where we also featured the event styling prowess of Liz Ewing, who we work with again and again, as well as showcasing the lovely wooden displays of Mark Friday from UMF Design for the first time.
We met some wonderful couples looking for inspiration for their 2018 weddings, including Rebecca Evans and husband-to-be Tom Ryder, pictured top right with their gorgeous daughter Sophia.
We were also delighted to see future brides and grooms like Chris Williams and Lucy Jagger (bottom right), who are already planning with Village Farm Marquees and wanted to refine their ideas by seeing one of our marquees ‘in action’. This fab couple are getting married in mid-July at the West Carlton Country Guesthouse near Aldbrough.
The feedback was excellent and we took lots of bookings for 2018 and beyond.
Rebecca, who works in Marketing for a major supermarket chain, said: “Tom’s a farmer on his family’s farm near Easingwold.
“We’re planning a country-style summer wedding next July and so it’s been really inspirational to visit a sample marquee and have a look at the kinds of decorations that are available.
“We’ve been really pleasantly surprised by how lovely a marquee can look, and the various displays have given us lots of ideas.”
Weddings harbour a lifetime of hopes and
Not only for the bride and groom but for all those they hold dear.
So it’s not surprising that they can easily become a maelstrom of conflicting expectations that, if not kept in check, can make your big day memorable for all the wrong reasons.
Adele Clough is a lifestyle engineer and author of the amazing new book ‘Say Yes to Life!’ with her own business called Adele Clough International. She has spent years coaching couples through the emotional stress and anxiety caused by the inevitable wedding shenanigans.
“Wedding planning is a really exciting time, filled with exquisite choices and endless possibilities,” she said.
“The excitement of a new engagement often gives rise to others heavily investing in the upcoming celebration in unexpected ways. As enthusiastic ideas come from all corners, blurred boundaries can develop as family members or close friends want to live out their own dreams. These could take the form of an heirloom piece of jewellery or clothing they would like the bride to wear, the kind of occasion or venue they want the couple to have – or even who they want them to invite.
“In many cases, though, although these might be lovely ideas, they are just not to the bride and grooms’ taste. However, because weddings are symbolic of your life together and a source of memories to cherish, it is vitally important that your day embodies what you want it to be. It is the one time in your life when it is OK to focus on yourself, and actually important that you do.”
So, how do you Keep calm in the chaos and prep for the day of your dreams? Adele shares her five essential steps
But how do you actually say that little word when it really counts?
Firstly, remember that saying yes to yourself often involves saying no to others. If thoughts like “I can’t say no, they will be so upset” or “I love them so I should try to keep them happy” come to mind. Stop. Would you compromise your own happiness for the sake of theirs on your wedding day? it is YOUR day, not theirs. They are free to marry or renew their vows in any way they wish without your interference and they should afford you the same.
Firm but fair is the approach. You don’t have to hit someone with a metaphorical sledge hammer to get your point across. The best way to tell them you can’t go along with whatever it is they are proposing, is to explain why you feel the way you do, and above all acknowledge how important it is to them, and the fact that they will feel disappointed. Knowing that you do care about them and their opinions can make a vast difference to the way they react to what you have to say. For example: “I’m thrilled to have you involved in my day and I know that this will disappoint you but I’m going to have to say no to x or y.”
Finishing what you have to say with a positive is important too, so that you leave no room for dwelling on the disappointment. End the conversation by reiterating to them that you’re really excited about your day and hope they’ll bask in the experience with you and be part of your journey.
Why is saying ‘no’ so important in the lead up to saying ‘yes’?
“Weddings are very unusual events,” added Adele. “Partly because they are the one day in most lives when it’s OK for things to be all about you. It is a major life event and one that it is important to look back on positively, in terms of your photos and memories of the day. In this way, it is different to really any other day of your life.
“Weddings put couples in the limelight in ways they haven’t been ever before. Brides in particular are the subject of hair, make-up and general pampering. It’s all about being free to enjoy this and live in the moment, without feeling burned out, stressed or exhausted because of this or that ruction going on.
“In fact, your wedding is such an important lifetime occasion that if you don’t hold on tightly to the fact it is your day, and things don’t go according to plan or are fraught with nervousness and negativity, those important memories can become tarnished and resentment can build. Every family has its undercurrents and hidden agendas, but if these are allowed to hamper your wedding day this can result in rifts that might never properly heal.”
Being prepared for people to say no to you
Of course, the same can also be true in reverse, and the people you really care about can shock you by not being prepared to do whatever it is you have in mind for them – from reading a passage at your wedding to acting as your maid of honour.
“If this happens to you, take a deep breath,” said Adele. “Try to understand their reasons. They might be shy or nervous of standing up in front of a big crowd of people, for example, and it’s important that you respect their reasons and right to decline. Although you’ve got your vision, be prepared for it to flex and develop organically – as being too rigid about it is a recipe for upset.
“Above all, bear in mind that weddings are big, emotional occasions involving a bunch of flawed human beings, and try to step back from wanting everything to be picture perfect, or you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. If a toddler cries or another guest coughs during the ceremony, accept that this is part of the colour of your day and can actually make moments richer than you could ever have planned for. You’re not in a film and there isn’t an editing process. It’s real life and needs to unfold as such.”
Whatever you want – it’s all possible
Adele concluded: “There is no fundamental law that states ‘thou shalt have a wedding that is exactly like this’.
“Many of the brides I coach are dealing with the regret of having felt they had to conform to some kind of social norm. That they had to have this kind of venue, or that type of dress, because that’s the way the magazines say it has to be, or a member of their extended family wanted it that way.
“The fact is that your wedding is exactly that. You can have it big or small, traditional or alternative, black, white or any colour in between, is entirely up to you and you are in charge!
“How cool is that? My advice is that you make the most of the freedom and enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!”
Adele is also a radio presenter, with her own uplifting show starting on Hull Kingstown Radio at 1350 AM, in which she discusses a range of lifestyle matters. You can also discover more details about Adele and her work at www.adeleclough.com .
At Village Farm Marquees, we’ve spent decades working with brides and grooms on their most wonderful and challenging day of a lifetime. We’ve seen it all and can provide a supportive, experienced ear to help you with everything from choosing your event base and style – right through to dealing with any challenges and issues that arise. To arrange your free, no obligation initial consultation, call us on ( 01262) 468160 or visit firstname.lastname@example.org.